Starting Over 3, 12-08-05 – Welcome Home?by LauraBelle
Allison leaves Houston as quite a different person. She has changed and grown so much from just these two days helping out in the Reliant Center with the Hurricane Katrina victims. She looks at being a victim very differently now, and seems them as victims, not herself. She walks back into the Starting Over house, wanting to share every bit of her experience with her housemates.
But instead, Allison is met with the same bickering and misunderstandings that she left two days ago. After Jill's hard night of staying away from the chocolate fondue, Allison, not knowing, walks in with chocolates for everyone, yet also brings some sugar free ones, just for Jill. It's still chocolate, Jill, but at least she was thinking specifically of you and your needs.
Lisa sits down to eat her breakfast and has been having quite the epiphany with her feelings. After storing them all inside for thirty years, they are all tumbling out, but the problem is she is still attaching the same aloofness and flippantness to her feelings. She tries to tell Allison she was missed, but instead rags on her other housemates for being slobs and says she will always defend Allison. Allison looks to be pretty much letting this all slide until TJ steps in.
TJ takes great offense to this, as Lisa is making it sound like they were all talking about Allison behind her back, and that is not what they were doing at all. Some of the other housemates had just said that Allison seems to be a trigger for some of their problems. But it's not a slam against Allison. Now if TJ hadn't attacked Lisa on all this, it wouldn't have pretty much gone away, but now Allison is feeling like complete shit. Lisa pretty much tells TJ she doesn't care what she thinks. It wasn't TJ's conversation, she butted in, and Lisa is now free to speak her feelings when she wants.
Allison then sits down with Jill and TJ to tell them about her awesome experience, but they don't seem to care too much. They just want to rag on Lisa some more. They tell on her being insensitive and wanting Jill to lead the sex trivia game because the rest of them were busy eating their chocolate fondue. Allison doesn't look too happy with all this.
Dr. Stan arrives to talk with Allison about her time in Houston, but seeing her upset, decides to talk about that first. She talks about her time at the Reliant Center being amazing and life-changing, and says she wanted to come home and share with her housemates instead of getting involved in their bickering. Dr. Stan tells her that her housemates not deriving the same enjoyment out of her experience, shouldn't diminish what she went through at all. This is all putting her back to victim status again. She has to stop worrying about what other people think.
Allison is then asked to write down all those negative feelings about herself, yet again. She writes down cancer patient, fat, etc. Dr. Stan assigns her to attaching these feelings to roses. She will then go to the beach and throw them all in, hoping for them not to return. If they do return, she is asked to simply walk away. Allison takes Jessica with her, who has her own share of roses and feelings she wants to get rid of. The two women throw the roses out into the ocean and when some of them was back ashore, they simply walk away.
Iyanla meets with Jill and gives her ... a bag! Inside is another smaller bag and lots of survival items like water, book, shoes, money, cell phone, flashlight, etc. Iyanla leaves, giving Jill the assignment of deciding what she needs to survive for the rest of her life, and to pack it in the smaller bag, but just three things.
When Iyanla returns, Jill is having a problem deciding on which items to pack, things she will need for the rest of her life. She has it narrowed down to four, and eventually narrows it down to three – shoes to always walk with, water for nourishment and a book for the knowledge she'll need to get through her life. Iyanla asks her to get her self-sabotage bag out from under her bed, and we know this isn't going to be good.
Jill brings the bag back down and she and Iyanla look through it, discovering it's not emptied yet. Iyanla suggests Jill keep the water, but exchange the book and shoes for a cell phone and flashlight. The cell phone will help her maintain communication. She asks Jill why she thinks she'll need the flashlight, and Jill says when it's dark, she can't always see. Iyanla tells Jill she'll get rid of the self-sabotage bag for her if she wants, but she needs to know which of these final three tools will help her with that. Jill says the cell phone. She needs to communicate to Iyanla that she is done sabotaging herself. She does so and Iyanla tells her those three things will help her get all those other things that she had to leave behind. They will help with knowledge, they will help with self-care, etc. Jill is asked to pack the three items and inform Miss Mabel of what she has learned.
Christina is having quite the day. She is late with her period and is worried she is pregnant. Having been through it before, she recognizes the signs. Her boobs hurt, she's tired, feeling a little sick, etc. Her and TJ figure out the timeline and they have been in the house now nearly two months, making Christina figure she is two weeks late. She then calls her boyfriend, Paul, and thinks about telling him, but doesn't.
After she is off the phone Omar, Jessica's ex-boyfriend from New York, calls. Christina sits by Jessica, offering her support during the phone call. Jessica says it's very difficult to tell him this, but she realizes it's not his fault, and that she was blaming him for her life. She tried to replace her mom with him, and that wasn't right. She asks if he still thinks they broke up for the same reason he did before, and he says yes.
As Christina goes out to the store to buy a pregnancy test, TJ talks to Jessica and Allison about the confrontation this morning with Lisa. Jessica starts to get upset now as the comment Lisa made about defending Allison because the others were saying Allison was their trigger, and it was Jessica who had actually made this comment. It's not real clear why TJ is bringing this up, yet again.
It is clear as TJ and Jessica confront Lisa about what was said earlier. Allison suggests to TJ that she look Lisa in the eye when addressing her as it might help the communication. TJ takes great offense to this and tells Allison to butt out as it's not her conversation. Excuse me? Who is TJ to tell someone else to butt out of a conversation? This whole thing was started because TJ butted into Allison and Lisa's conversation.
Allison tells TJ that's fine, she's done, but warns TJ not to be a bitch to her, and leaves the room. Jessica tries to help, and says it was TJ's conversation, not Allison's, but also tells TJ that she did speak to Allison a little rudely. Jill is upstairs dressing Mabel and talking to her and says she wants to go downstairs, make herself a huge bowl of popcorn and sit down and dish with the rest of them, but she thinks she'll just stay upstairs. Lisa later comes upstairs to her room where Allison is already in bed. Allison asks if Lisa enjoyed her argument and Lisa says they got it all worked out, but now she can't remember what was said.
Christina walks in with a few bags from the store and announces loudly, "I got your stuff!" making it sound like she went to the store for someone else, instead of going there to get a pregnancy test. TJ and Jessica come to greet her and ask excitedly if she got the test. It's clear only these three know. Christina says she will take the test in the morning.
I still don't think Christina is really pregnant. By her timely, that would mean she had her period the first few weeks in the house. She would have had to have her period even though she was already pregnant, as she hasn't had any sexual contact while inside the house. I know it happens, but it's still not all that likely. I believe it's just the stress of everything she is going through that has screw up her hormones and her system. We'll have to wait for tomorrow to find out!
Who do you think stepped out of bounds in the arguments today? Email me at LauraBelle@realityshack.com
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